Dear Sahaj: I am having a very hard time putting my husband’s one year of emotional cheating with his old college flame (from 58 years ago) behind me. It’s been two years since I found messages on his phone, and I’m still thinking and crying about it. He insists that he’s stopped, but I have no proof; in fact, he has kept all of her contact information. I’m still going back and reading their very intimate conversations, and I’m going crazy. I just can’t believe he did that.