Carolyn Hax is away. The following first appeared July 30, 2010, and has been lightly edited.
Dear Carolyn: I got engaged in February. My fiancé’s family is wonderful and seemed so family-oriented. His younger (and only) brother plays college football, which made it difficult to have a wedding in the fall. However, we wanted a fall wedding, so his parents pulled out his brother’s football schedule. Our church was available for only one of the two free weekends, so we chose that weekend.